The Blog of lunnas

   I feel you teach a child no matter of the age by every thing you do like if you are ridding the public bus and you help a older man or woman with her bags or you help a mother carring a baby with her bags your teaching your child to be kind. every thing you do teaches a child if your hateful to a homeless person and you spit on the poor person your child learns to put people down. we are the teachesr of our nexk gennaration of people and how we raise our children is what they will become as adults ,if we teach codependcy thats the adult you will have a adulut that will not take responciailty for what actions they do ,when we always do for our children giving accuses to why they act badly we condone what they do. and as a adults no one knows why they abuse thier own children or even the eldery, children become what you teach t them will they becomee brats or responacable adults will they live in truth and honer or will they live in lies disegaurd for humand lives. ?     i know not every one is perfect but learn and teach your children well becalse they will one day maybe taking care of you ......                                                                                                                                                        Practical Ways to Nurture Caring Kids When you are encouraging kids to care, the goal is not to show children one "right" way to think about or respond to a problem. Instead, help them come up with strategies that make sense to them. Here are some ideas: Help children take actions that grow out of their own concerns. Talk about what could be done to help solve problems. No matter how well-intentioned you are, don't tell your child what he must do. Strategize tangible ways kids can make a difference. * Contribute a portion of their allowance or make a holiday gift to a cause they can understand. Look through your mail together from nonprofits and let them choose. * Gather old toys and clothing to give to a local charity. * Volunteer at local organizations that help those in need. * Give a gift of "service" to a parent, friend or grandparent. Show children there are many ways to care. Children can demonstrate caring by doing household chores, by getting homework done and getting to bed on time, by finding ways to help neighborhood friends or schoolmates in need, and even by being a good sport when you lose a game. Help kids deal with problems in inclusive ways. Don't expect children to always feel generous and try not to make them feel guilty about it. Comments like "you need to be nice" or "share with your brother" may promote more feelings of anger and resentment than caring. Instead, ask questions that inspire kids to think of solutions, such as: "What can we do if you both want the ball?" Make sure children know it is the job of adults to make the world a safe place. They should not think that their own sense of safety and well-being is dependent on their own actions. "To reassure them and give perspective, you might discuss the fact that adults will always keep them safe, as everyone does their part in making a difference," advises Carlsson-Paige. As children get older, talk about the causes of problems, not just the solutions. Discuss why a problem came about, what others are doing to try to solve it, and ask them to come up with their own solutions. Allow your kids to ask questions. "Research shows that children who do community service often discontinue unless they learn what caused a particular p problem or condition," advises Levin.